Pretty Little Bullies: Millennials as the Ultimate Haters



America’s Boomers are a controlling bunch for sure. As teens and twenties they shut down their high schools, colleges and public buildings with “sit-ins,” even bombed the Capitol (and elected one of the bomber’s proteges to the presidency no less), to get their way. They screamed, and were protected, under the First Amendment. Some of what they protested was important and good, and many millions of have benefited from their willingness to tell the truth, no matter how painful, particularly in regards to race relations and alcoholism/co-dependency.



Bill Ayers, 60s protester/domestic terrorist

Somewhere along the line, however, they lost their way. Or, more accurately, they never actually found their way, into adulthood, that is. While most adults begin to understand how the liberal (i.e. libertine) desires of the young need to stay with the young, Boomers stayed the same, spoiled, mouthy brats they were in 1970. They shout down and drown anyone  who dares suggest an alternative to their hallowed universe. One is not allowed to criticize the holy social gospel of Boomerdom without literally being threatened with jail time. The institutions they protested are now the institutions that give them the power to marginalize and ghettoize: in Congress, in the Presidency, in the bureaucracies, in the mainstream media, in religion,  even in the military (bombs – they like bombs).

Millennials — the children and students of Boomers — naturally do not have a clue how entitled and rude Boomers were, so, understandably, they don’t see how they have been co-opted and corrupted by them. The “make love, not war” generation has left us an ugly legacy: an expectation of entitlement for the loudest voice, in parallel with devolving American culture into one based on emotion, rather than fact or civil consensus. Are we surprised really, to see their children/students also behaving badly, complete with the never-ending act of domestic terrorism called “shutting down the First Amendment?”


You know what I mean … you even breathe before suggesting an additional viewpoint on the Four Gospels (LGBTQ, Planned Parenthood, Free Stuff and College, and Animals are People, Too) and you see the face. You know, the one that says, “Don’t bother to fill out a ‘do not resuscitate’ form. We’ve already done it for you.”

This attitude, of course, cannot stand in America/Amerika. They First Amendment may have lost it’s appeal to Boomers, now that it gets in their way, but some of us are old-fashioned. We want to hear the alternative voices. We are not old. We are not intolerant. We want fresh and esoteric and (gasp!) controversial words and pictures in our public square. We refuse to capitulate to Boomer Puritanism, where everything and everybody they don’t like goes into the stocks for public shaming.

I am, right now, thinking of Josh Weed. No, this has nothing to do with marijuana — that would be old hippie stuff anyway. He is …


hold on …


this might be difficult to accept …


take a deep breath …


wait …


here it comes …


are you sure you are open-minded enough to handle this?



He is a gay man living a straight life. (HORROR OF HORRORS. THIS IS NOT ALLOWED. HOW DARE HE??????????)


Scott Savage, who was harassed so much in his job as a college librarian by his colleagues for merely suggesting a book they didn’t like, he quit. He then lost a discrimination lawsuit because the harassment wasn’t bad enough.

marketing of evil

The book that caused Ohio State faculty to freak out. Not well written, but certainly thought-provoking.


young people who are assaulted and bullied in school because of their skin color.

There are more stories like this, all people stopped by the institutional prison created by Boomers who propagandized an entire generation into becoming the very haters they hate. Millennials are, sadly, the ultimate haters because they will not allow — née, cannot tolerate — disagreement. They love gays, but HATE those who question gay politics or whose religion disagrees with gay marriage. They love animals, and/or fear for the earth, then despise (HATE) those who suggest animals are not on a level with humans, or fight against the tyranny of global “sustainability.” They love their status as “global citizens” (not a real thing), then HATE presidential candidates who point out of the economic disaster of a borderless world.

Is this you? Do you think all hate is bad, unless it’s your hate

Be bigger than that.

Boomers were, in part, energized toward change after growing up in homes where the fallout of war permeated their everyday lives. Their fathers came home from Europe or the Pacific theatre of World War II changed. They suffered PTSD long before there was any talk of help. They were alcoholics, they suffered flashbacks, they couldn’t sleep, they limped, were sometimes limbless. They also appreciated home-sweet-home, if they were fortunate enough to return, so they built parks and swimming pools and formed community clubs to make the place they raised their children peaceful and beautiful. They were flawed, but they loved the best they could.

They often felt their children were ungrateful.  Unfortunately they were right, at the most fundamental level. Those flower children who spit on Vietnam draftees, failed — and still fail — to accept and admire the sacrifice that gave them that ability to whine and cry and scream publicly in the first place.


General Eisenhower with WWII Troops. (Source: National Archives)

The right to Free Speech is not one to be re-written at will. Every child of American schools know this fact: without the Boomer fathers, we would be speaking German, a language associated with the most hateful historical acts of the West in the 20th century. Do you see the irony?  Boomers who claimed to promote equal rights and “free love,” now exercise the politics of hate their fathers literally killed to stop. Here’s what you might not know: those WWII soldiers were fighting a regime whose first acts were to shut down free speech. One of WWII’s best known martyrs, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, was executed by them because he refused to stop speaking out for the German church. Are Boomers executing those with whom they disagree? I would like to say “no,” but, frankly, I don’t actually know. They have passed laws that allow the U.S. government to abduct and retain, without cause, any citizen, for any reason.

So don’t be a Boomer. Be better. Be for Bernie AND the Donald’s right to speak.

Allow speech. Allow dissent. Don’t feel threatened. Don’t control. Promote individual liberty. Learn discernment. Begin with the writings Boomers were forced to read, but would never heed: Thoreau’s Civil Disobedience; Orwell’s 1984; the Bill of Rights.

Oh, and read it in English. (Because you can.)





Incompetence of the Nerds

programmer cup

Back in the olden days, I worked for a software company. That means I worked with programmers. Not all the time, every day, but often enough, e.g. when the paths of the marketing department would cross into their hallowed territory. Or during Thursday afternoon wine and cheese in the lobby.

Programmers were, and are, an arrogant bunch, based on a notion (now canon) they are the smartest people in the world. I suppose we can’t blame them for this; we gave them monstrously high wages for typing in a bunch of arrows and letters and numbers and made one of their own the richest man on the planet. We never bothered to ask if this was, to use old Martha Stewart parlance, a “good thing,” we just kept buying expensive crap that didn’t work and needed to be upgraded five minutes after we paid $1000 for it.

So having had enough of this, I will posit to you today, the contrarian position that a) programmers are not only not the smartest people in the world, they are b) lazy.

First, let’s tackle point number A: Not long ago I had a conversation with a friend who was teaching humanities classes at a career college. She is a lovely person, accepts everyone in that way that brings out your best work, and liked her job. But, she was having trouble with one particular group of students.

Now, it is important to understand where she was teaching. Her position was in a school in Rockford, Illinois, a city that is often (not this year, thank you former presidential chief of staff Chicago Mayor Rahm Immanuel) the top spot for homicides in the state of Illinois. Students who attended her classes frequently had to talk with her about late assignments or missed class periods because they had to bail a family member out of jail at 3 a.m., or were working two jobs just to keep from getting evicted from their crappy apartments. Many of these young adult were going to class, doing their homework, taking tests to get out of the ghetto and stay out of the ghetto, at the same time the ghetto was still grabbing onto their shirt tails. They had humble and simple goals: graduate and get a job as a veterinary or pharmacy technician, or maybe a medical assistant. Something with benefits that would pay the bills. Good, hard-working kids.

But, N-O-O-O-O-O-O ….  these were not the students with whom my friend was struggling. It was the IT guys. They didn’t show up to class, they didn’t do the assignments. They didn’t care. They did just enough to squeak a passing grade. Why? Well, she said, it wasn’t important. “It’s not relevant to my life,” they told her.


The Creation of Adam  by Michelangelo

Oh, goody. The “smartest” people in the world can’t even get through a class where they are asked to listen to Beethoven, learn the names of a handful of architectural styles, look at a painting or two. Clearly, not the smartest people in the world. In fact, I shall put them on the other end of the intelligence spectrum, and I’ll use an even older term: fools.

Of course it’s not their inability to learn that makes them stupid. I’m reasonably sure if a gal who lives next door to a crack house that got firebombed the night before can show up to class and do the assignment, Mr. Smarty-pants C+++++ can, too. No, it’s the horrifying  fact they cannot see their own imbicility. This is a different type of idiocy, one that goes far beyond simple IQ, down the path of dangerous, and as we’ve begun to see, well into psychopathy. Mr. C++++++++++++ is, quite frankly, too dumb even to recognize the humanity of which he is a part.

This, I think, answers a) quite well. Can’t recognize what makes humans human, you ain’t smart. Done.

On to point number B (I do this on purpose you know): programmers/IT persons, are L..A..Z..Y. I know what you are saying. “I stayed up all  night on the robot team project!”  “I stayed up all night playing [insert latest game here] and still made it to class!”  “I got a job in a lab !” “Someone pays me $100,000 to do my job, I am not lazy!”

Well, retorts do not make an argument, so let’s look at facts. Remember the Target data breach, the largest hack in American history? The story from the spectacular minds in IT at Target said they had a warning system in place but it didn’t alert them when gazillions of bits of customer data was getting sucked out. Okay. So let me see if I understand this correctly. The master geniuses, in the class of the so-called smartest people in the world, set an alarm. Now, I’m no genius myself, but when my kid’s smart phone died in the night, he was late for class because THE ALARM DIDN’T GO OFF. If the electricity goes off in the night, and your alarm clock is plugged in, you’re going to be late for work. If you forgot to wind your alarm clock, you got up late. This is not a new problem. Hell, this goes back to pre-electricity days!

Clearly, then, we are not dealing with a “smarts” problem; this is a lazy problem. If you are in charge of the intimate and secure financial details of millions of loyal customers, and you get paid six figures to keep secure the intimate and secure details of millions of loyal customers and you brag about your job to yourself and all your extended relatives at Christmas dinner, your job is far beyond just hoping the alarm goes off. Your job is to walk the fences. Everyday. Twice a day, if necessary. Your JOB is to keep secure the intimate financial details of millions of loyal customers, idiot.

This doesn’t just happen in high profile data cases. Just this morning my husband went online to take care of a required action for employees at his company. This particular thing is done every year by thousands of workers, all in a relatively short period of time. And humans being humans, many wait until the last few hours. But could he get on? Oh, hell, no. The system was down. Now, this is not a public system, it is in-house, and not important to the outside world. But it is extremely important to the individual employees because it affects their work schedules for an entire year, and if their personal data isn’t entered, it can get really, really ugly. In the 24 years he has worked there, the system has had no problems. Until today. Somebody screwed up. Some individual who always thinks himself the smartest guy in the room is copping an excuse right now. And he doesn’t give a damn what happens to the guy on the other end of the system. LAZY.

So, is this just bitching? Not really. Our inability to honestly look at the attitudes of programmers and how they affect us is genuinely dangerous. Think about it: should individuals who cannot tolerate a semester of lessons on the emotional expressions of humanity, our beauty and our griefs, be entrusted with our social lives, our healthcare records, our communications, our bank accounts, our national security?  Should men who blatantly dismiss the contributions of others (“I can do your job with my hands tied behind my back and my eyes blindfolded,” one programmer told me) and cannot identify an irony (the license plate on his new Fiero said “FIERO”) be given the detailed and vital digital details of our precious and valuable lives?

That stuff bothers me. But there’s one still bigger that bugs me more: Bill Gates. In the past couple of years he has decided to promote a long-time family passion, using his great billions given to him by us. He is, based on dinner table conversations with his father about a much discredited 19th century minister-turned economist, worried about overpopulation. He has a plan, of course, which may include using vaccinations, among other methods, to control the number of births on Planet Earth. This is ambitious for many reasons, not the least of which is, “who died and made you God?”


This is disturbing. (You are disturbed, aren’t you?) Bill Gates is not known for his “people skills.” His assumptions about over-population are based on incorrect mathematical data. Why does Bill Gates think this is okay? Maybe it’s because he didn’t show up at humanities class at Harvard to learn what makes humans human. Or maybe because nobody in his hoity-toity private school bothered to smack him upside the head and say, “Get over yourself, boy!”

So, okay,  what do we do about this? Well, first we think before buying the latest contraption that costs more than a month’s worth of groceries. And when we can’t get along without those machines, we think hard about whether we will support dehumanizing causes promoted by rich programmers and equally vacuous government types. Just because they are smart in one area, doesn’t make them smart in all, nor do they have a mandate to control large portions of human life just because they have the money or power to do so. We also need to re-think about our school curricula, and the obsession with STEM programs. Our job is to raise up a generation of humans, not machines, even while we learn to live with the machines. (Classical and Charlotte Mason methods do this.)

We also need to insist on humility from those in the IT business. We must hold them accountable for their mistakes. If necessary, we must re-educate (actually just educate) them. They should be sent to “humanities training,” the way some folks need to go to anger management classes, or drunk school after a DUI arrest. “Jimmy, do you understand where you made your mistake?” “No?” “Well you’ll have to do the lesson again until you get it right (dammit).”

It occurs to me now maybe the problem is that none of these kids ever owned a chicken. Chickens require daily care. They are also unpredictable enough to put you in your place. They are funny and without a doubt will show you why they cross the road. I can tell you, from experience, they cross the road when they don’t have a good, well-maintained, checked-everyday fence. When that happens, they wreak havoc on the neighbor’s garden and your relationship with the neighbor, or they go rogue and you lose your daily egg supply, usually to a predator. All of which happened at Target.

The old adage is true: good fences make good neighbors. Good neighbors check fences. Good neighbors care. Good neighbors are human. Good neighbors are relevant.


(A note to my family and friends who are programmers: We’ve had this conversation, as you know. Therefore, you may rest assured you are not in danger of being spirited off in the middle of  the night to theatre camp.)




14 Leadership Secrets Taught By Elite Private Schools


“Exeter Tree Halo” – Photo by James Garner Williams

A few years ago I heard a radio show host talk about her time in an elite private high school. Her tuition had been a gift, so at 14 she attended one of the schools you would recognize from background info on presidential candidates.

Previous to enrolling there, she had been a student in your standard public school, and was an excellent student. But when she had a chance to sit in the same classrooms as the future leaders of the country, she saw more than just who was in the seat next to her. She noticed how different the entire approach to the students was, how they were viewed and, consequently, what they were taught. Most significantly, they were already assumed to be smart enough to lead, so their training — although rigorous in academics — was interwoven constantly with the other vital aspects of life in that circle of rare air. They were being groomed, fully, to sit at state dinners, campaign, preside over a Fortune 500 board rooms and more.

So what are those characteristics that, say, a Bush child would have prioritized and developed in her that our children and grandchildren would not? Below is a paraphrased list of the 14 leadership secrets of private elite schools, as articulated by education guru John Taylor Gatto.  All are logical, but as you will note, some seem downright diabolical, if you are on the other side. How does it compare to your local government or religious school?

Specifically, at commencement, each graduate will:

  1. Have been taught a perspective on human nature that allows that future leader to get others to do what they want them to do. This includes being well-educated in human lore: history, philosophy, theology, literature and law.
  2. Have been given significant experience and will have developed strong skills in the “active literacies,” that is, writing and public speaking.
  3. Understand the major institutional forms, such as government and the military, including the ideas that drive them. This includes understanding the dynamics and tensions of the separation of powers.
  4. Be perpetually polite and extremely well-mannered. “Civility is the foundation of all future relationships and alliances,” says Gatto.
  5. Have the capability for working independently.
  6. Have been active in sport, “the only way to confer grace on the human presence.” Gatto says participation in sport translates into power and money, and teaches the student to handle physical pain.
  7. Have been taught how to access anyone in power.
  8. Have been rewarded for asking for more responsibility (as part of the curriculum).
  9. Have arrived at a personal standard of behavior and morality.
  10. Know the masters of the fine arts and humanitarians in order to transcend materiality.
  11. Have honed personal powers of observation and recording, i.e. being able to draw what they have seen in order to prove their presence at a place.
  12. Have faced significant difficulties, frequently, to learn how to handle great challenges. “Stand back up!”
  13. Have developed the habit of caution in reasoning before coming to conclusions.
  14. Have experience developing and testing their own ability to make judgments, discriminate value, evaluate predictions and more.



George Prescott Bush, Texas Land Commissioner

So now you know how your kids and grandchildren will differ from the elites long before they get their first big paychecks. You also see why these students are so far “ahead” and end up in all the desired positions. It isn’t just “who you  know,’ unless that’s part of your curriculum (as it is here).

What you may not know is that since 1913, when John D. Rockefeller established the General Education Board — a “philanthropy” developed specifically to influence public school curriculum and teaching — these concepts have not been allowed in most schools. The General Education Board specifically stated that the purpose of schools was to train workers for 20th century industrial jobs. A hundred years later we have the same thing happening in Common Core, where the entire purpose is to train children to become part of a “21st century workforce.” In other words, you are the worker bees.

There you are. Good luck getting these characteristics into any schools today, for “regular people,” though you might try with a private school.Certainly you can add them to your home life whenever possible, and take advantage of the resources you do have around you. Don’t give up. You never know what circumstances your children may find themselves in, and history loves the unknown stranger who arrives on the scene with all the requisite gifts. Someone who is a humble member of society.

One more thing: this is just high school …. college is where the real magic happens.